December 22, 2008
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It sucks to be an Asian guy.
Well, if you believe everything you read. Just the other day there was a post on Datingish talking about why Asian guys lose their women to other races. I rolled my eyes like Cypress Hill does a joint in anticipation of yet another post filled with negative stereotypes about Asian men. (I come back from vacation and that’s what I see on featured content? Oh, Xanga, how far you have fallen!)
Just to get it out of the way, I’ve never had a problem with Asian women dating Caucasians, Blacks or Latinos. If I’m not interested in that particular girl, why should I care who she dates?
The main reasons why the writer of the post believes that Asian men can never get girls are:
1) They lack initiative
2) They do not follow up
And per routine the lemmings came out of hiding to reply, “Like, OMG, I knew an Azn guy just like that. He was a black belt too!” But isn’t that a little, uh, RACIST (if not just ignorant and stupid) to stereotype all Asian men as Long Duk Dongs? Think about it. What if tomorrow on featured content there was a post saying:
1) African American men lose their women because they are too aggressive
2) Latino men lose their women because they are lazy.
Is that so different from the post in question?
Of course there are Asian guys who lack initiative, along with many other African Americans, Latinos and Caucasians. Of course there are African American men who are too aggressive, along with many other Asians, Latinos and Caucasians. Of course there are Latinos who are lazy, along with many other Asians, African Americans and Caucasians. Negative attributes are a monopoly of mankind and not one particular kind of man. I’ve heard and read it all.
Asian men are not supposed to be well versed in English and the arts.
Asian men are not supposed to be good athletes.
Asian men are not supposed to be tall.
Asian men are not supposed to be good looking.
Asian men don’t know how to dance.
Not taking the initiative or not following up are things that can be found in any random guy off the street and why the writer chose to make it an Asian phenomenon is beyond me.
Don’t put me in a box just because someone rejected you in the past.
The whole issue of the three date rule changing from sex to a kiss for Asian men isn’t necessarily a bad thing, either. Ever consider the fact that no one wants to date an ambulatory petri dish?
What does that post infer about the Asian and non-Asian women who date Asian men? Are they somehow degrading themselves by choosing Asian men?
I don’t buy the “It’s not racist because I said that this post is not about ‘every Asian guy’ [despite the title]” defense. It’s like saying, “I’m not racist, I have Latino friends and I watch the Cosby show.”
I am tired of reading blogs by girls who incessantly complain that guys don’t take the initiative or call back fast enough, as if their mere presence in a room should demand that all the single men get down on one knee and beg for a date like she was Jessica Alba. If you want to work at a Fortune 500 company, do you think just sitting outside the entrance sucking in your gut and on a breath mint will get you a job? Double decka hecka no. You send in your resume and harass HR until they offer you an interview. Likewise, if there is a guy you fancy, don’t just sit and whine about being ignored…go get him. The thought that men should do all the chasing (i.e. “work for it” as if the girl is a piece of meat at Whole Foods) is as antiquated as the thought that a woman should put out on a date because the guy took her to Applebee’s and pretended to listen to her drama. If women want to be treated and respected like equals, they shouldn’t act like damsels in distress when they are not. The beginning of a relationship sets the tone for the future. No guy wants to be in a relationship where he always has to jump through hoops to prove to a girl that he likes her. (Only insecure women ask for that.) Honey, the real world isn’t like Super Mario…no one wants to date a princess.
If you choose not to date someone because he lacks initiative or does not follow up that’s fine by me. Just don’t assume that because I’m Asian that I’m weak sauce like that.
(For the record, I took the initiative to ask The Wife™ out and when she gave me her number I followed up and called her.)
Merry Christmas, everyone! Many blessings to you and yours. Happy birthday, Jesus!
Comments (335)
i love that line right there
Honey, the real world isn’t like Super Mario…no one wants to date a princess.
reality checks! check.
thats why i never read featured blog… they’re FULL OF SHIT. full of it i tell you.
You’re hot, tall, edumicated and I am pretty sure you can move on the dance floor.
OMG! You’re not really an ASIAN! IMPOSTER!
Happy Holidays! I always enjoy reading your entries. I read that datingish post earlier and felt pretty similar about it in terms of none of it really needing to pertain to race. I guess it’s just like a catch phrase to talk about Asian guys and being bad at dating, etc.
Surprised you took that shit seriously. It was such a dumb post.
I enjoy your writing, and I was all for this post… until you started talking about girls pursuing guys. Just because I want my boyfriend to pursue me does not mean I am a spoiled princess. I think it is the way God designed relationships to work best, as an image of how He himself pursues his bride, the church. Now this does not mean that I walk into a room and expect every guy to run up to me and beg for my number, and I do my part to show love and attention to my boyfriend, but I do think that it is not my place to aggressively pursue the guy.
“No guy wants to be in a relationship where he always has to jump through hoops to prove to a girl that he likes her. (Only insecure women ask for that.)”
Genius!
hmm i rather fancy hoop-jumping! haha jk
this should be on featured!!
I love this post Frank! Spot on. I don’t judge someone because of their RACE. I judge them as a person due to their individual actions.
lol i liked the links to random pics & youtube videos. awesome response.
Yay Frank– you back with a vengeance!
Well, I’m Asian and I’m neither well versed in English nor good at sports. Nor tall. Nor good looking.
But DANCING. Man I’m a good dancer. Though my peers think otherwise.
Amen brother. Amen.
Lacks initiative? I’m surprised that was one of the fundamental reasons the writer listed because the last time I’ve checked, all my guy friends in general are always pursuing or chasing someone and yet, many of my female Asian friends are still dating non-Asians. It’s just of preference.
-ray leeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Wow. You must be a fraud.
(no but seriously, thanks for this post. The featured one pissed me off, and I wrote about it as well.)
HEY you’re back!!
It sucks to be an Asian guy…because there isn’t a whole lot of dunking at our schools
ha! i thought about you rolling your eyes when i read that silly post.
well said frankie!
My boyfriend is Asian and I was with him when I read that, he came over and read it to and started laughing. It’s stupid to stereotype Asian men as being the only ones like that I’ve dated plenty of Caucasians who never called back. So what? Girls got it going on, she needs to be the one with initiative. I agree, if you aren’t trapped in a tower, surrounded by a mote, with alligators and fire breathing dragons, you don’t need rescuing. Women need to realize we aren’t living in the 1920′s anymore. It’s perfectly fine for girls to ask the guy out, or ask for his number.
That’s what I did.
We’ve been together 8 months, and counting.
Girls owe it to themselves to exercise the freedom we’ve been given. You want the guy, you go after him. We aren’t in cavemen times where if a guy wanted a girl he went and kidnapped her from her family.
Holy shit, good sir. That Super Mario line was fudging class. SOLD!
hear hear.
Good for you!! this was a good post and well written
I actually commented on that post you were talking about, and said “can’t men from EVERY race lack initiative and fail to follow up?”
lets make another stereotype: maybe its not the asian men who aren’t “manly” enough, but the asian girls complaining about it who are just too lazy? I’m sure they wouldn’t like that title..
and besides, I’m white and I’m dating a chinese boy. booyah.
Thank you. Couldn’t have said it better.
YOU RACK DISIPRINE!
THAT IS WHY YOU NO GET GURL!
…yeesh, I hate those kinda posts.
I always enjoy your blogs, humor doeth good! Merry Christmas!
agreed agreed! welcome back franks…you were MIA for a while
they’re all a bunch of racists. aint no thang.
Not that it has anything to do with what you said, but I thought that Long Duk Dong was the coolest character in sixteen candles.
But yeah, I agree with everything you said.
Word up. I was going to reply to her post, but you did it much more articulately that I ever could. Mine would have been littered with F words and phrases like “cunt punt”. Thank you for this. Although I still do believe she needs to be cunt punted.
You know what? I am so tired of this because if people stop their whining and look around, there are PLENTY of Asian guys with non-Asian women. Goodness! Have you turned on HGTV? Every couple that’s buying their first home, or redoing their home – if the couple is interracial with an Asian spouse, the Asian spouse is the husband! Not the wife. I walk around NYC, and there are soooooo many Asian dudes with non-Asian girls. Sure, you see the other way around too, and I’d venture to say see it marginally more. But not that much more to continue this incessant whining.
It’s not like it’s only dorky Asian guys not getting girls. It’s dorky guys PERIOD. I think of course if you go to certain other regions or cities or states, the number of Asian dudes with non-Asian girls is less than it is in a metropolitan city like NYC, but there’s also just fewer Asian dudes there in general.
@Atomic_emmcee -
If by “coolest” you mean, one of the worst stereotypical portrayals of Asian men in movies, I’d agree.
Cheers.
@Mr_Jin -
That’s actually pretty much what I meant.
The stereotype was so pathetic, unbelievable and exagerated, I had to laugh at the character.
For some reason, I hated sixteen candles so Long Duk Dong’s ridulousness (is that even a word?) had to be the best thing for me in that movie.
@Atomic_emmcee -
* ridiculousness.
thank you for taking the time to write a thoughtful response to that post. somebody had to do it. leave it to franksabunch!
agreed. franksabunch for a great post!
why they assuming, right?
It is a problem when people begin having these misconceptions after experiencing a few unfavorable experiences. The more we believe in such stereotypes, the likelihood we would encounter instances where these stereotypes occur.
awesome comeback haha
High Five! Well thought through and amazingly and simply explained. Way to use the SMBros as an example. The flip side always reveals the truth.
double decka hecka YES. this is amazing
Frank, you da man.
I’m tired of these white-washed Asian girls talking shit about us. Thanks for being a mindless follower of the American media and displaying serious daddy issues. That article’s description of Asian men being ” passive ” is what I interpret us being ” classy “. You don’t see Asian men writing xanga entries going “ non-Asian girls are so much better because they have bigger breasts, a more interesting personality, and, oh yeah, a the fob girls are totally hotter “. Most of us could date women outside our race; we just give Asian girls a benefit of the doubt and they shoot us in the foot.
I’m glad you wrote about this. I read that Theif’s post from datingish and I was like…. uhm… actually I can think of many guys (whether they’re white, asian, black, latino etc.) who can fit this mold. I didn’t appreciate how she sort of singled you all out like that?
I agreed with her that I would like a man who was a bit more on-top of things, or who seemed to have the drive to do something…. to me I always find that attractive in a guy, that’s personally my standard…. and it proves that he has some sort of ambition……. but I agree with you as you’ve said, why should she judge you into such a group simply because you’re asian? Also…. I agree that it is a racist comment. She may defend it all she wants, but she is degrading you all collectively, including herself if she were involved with an asian man.
I don’t know. A guy is a guy to me, regardless of what “color” they are.
half of my asian gfs don’t date asian guys and verbally say it often. my husband was saying how asian girls are probably the only race that continually announce how much they don’t want to date their own kind. you rarely hear white girls or black girls saying specifically how much they won’t date white/black guys.
AGREED!
Nice post.
I was reading that post earlier too..and just thought…
Aren’t we all human…perhaps a bit difference in cultural experiences but still…how racist!
Thank you for writing up this post. To be honest, I was more offended by a lot of the comments on that Datingish post instead of the post itself. Whereas the post made a point that there are at least some good Asian guys out there, many of the comments that were made were overtly stereotypical. Whenever I read a comment by someone saying “that’s why I only date white guys because they’re better” I just cringe at how racist that sounds.
I really hope this post gets featured. Certain people should definitely read your great rebuttal post.
i rec you because your links are fabulous and your points are valid.
Amen to this — couldn’t have said it better myself. I have nothing to add to this — I think xanga should make YOUR post a featured one (if it hasn’t done so already).
Happy holidays,
Eric
i think the consensus is unanimous- thanks for saving all of us time
Every girl, deep down, wants to feel hotter than Jessica Alba.
But I agree that sometimes, it’s necessary to go on the offensive.
well said
Asian guys are just like any other regular guys, and at the end of the day you judge an individual by who he is and not what race he belongs to. But the way that Asian men are portrayed in American media certainly doesn’t help. It’s led some to believe that they lack initiative and don’t follow up, blah blah.
hope you had a nice vacation! i read that featured post and thought, those guys were probably not that interested, but it somehow got twisted into “lacks initiative and doesn’t follow up.” hahaha.
This will make a great rebuttal post that will spark some discussion haha~
I honestly think the datingish post was all right — some of the comments were pretty extreme —
but then again, its a post and an opinion. There’s bound to be those that agree and disagree.
I also like your advice – regarding the ‘damsels in distress.’ That stuff just doesn’t exist anymore. If a girl likes a guy she should take action just like a guy pursues a girl. Isn’t it that just equality? The equality they were fighting for – for so long?
“Honey, the real world isn’t like Super Mario…no one wants to date a princess.”
I’m gonna steal that line.
Yeah, I hated the article also and your comments is right on the money. I also think it’s BS when she mentioned that girls will introduce you to their friends, because it’s statistically proven that 90% of all females would not do that because 90% of these women don’t share attention.
girls are such divas! oh wait, is that sexist?
“Don’t put me in a box just because someone rejected you in the past.”
Word.
I agree with you !!!!!
Good job! 8]
:snaps:
ambulatory petri dish… haaa
food for thought: (well, not really food for thought. more like amusement)
http://www.abcsofattraction.com/
WOO!
Finally, someone who sticks up for the Asian man.
brilliant post!! genius!
@lil_eric -
they won’t because it’s not stereotypical enough. and then you wouldn’t have all these response posts creating more buzz/traffic. brilliant, huh?
Very good post! Oh and btw I find a lot of Asian men are handsome but sadly they’re not given chances.
Guys are still guys no matter what race, height, or weight they are.
but yeah, I’m sick of always hearing about this and that about asian guys!
datingish = fail.
oh and they are perpetuating(racist) stereotypes for even allowing such a post to be spread.
lol =)
look at all the asian guys brimming with pride to be an asian guy.
how successful, how atypical to the stereotype, how confident, how intelligent.
lovely.
Merry Christmas to you too and this is a very nice response.
Amen, brotha.
@owbert - did you read the opening to the post? and the caveats in the intro?
@john -
eh? read? never! btw, i hear from the grapevine that you are a racist now? welcome to the club. ill send you the decoder ring later.
@owbert - i think that discussion about race (here and there) advances racial understanding. maybe i should just feature PC stuff for a while…
Because Theif and everyone else in that post can suck a big phat…!
I hate princess-type girls.
Viva la resistance! Finally Xanga puts up a competent rebuttal to that godawful post.
hahaha great blog!
One word: RESPECT ;D
WORD UP.
Thank you for this post I’ve been getting really really frustrated with the other featureds. THANKS!
@john -
i agree, and this is why you are top notch by my books, john. and while discussion about race will advance racial understanding i dont think the topic of what the author choose to write and what datingish choose to highlight is relevant to racial understanding. nor does it do it a lot of good.
it may resonate with some (asian) ppl, but i still fail to see as anything else but stereotyping.
p/s.: a complementary intro with a warning label on top of a pile of stinky pile of poo doesnt take away from the fact that it still stinks. and that it is still a pile of poo. stinky poo.
awesome post.
Pffft. I hated that post. I’m really glad you wrote this!
I dated an Asian guy.
He was awesome. A jerk towards the end, but we still talk on occasion.
We were just drawn towards each other, but he wasn’t shy by any means and he did not lack initiative.
I feel like Asian guys don’t get enough love.
I only wish more of them were allowed to date or were even attracted to black girls like myself
*tear*
Hell of a good post, dude!!!
It’s all weak sauce…. people can say this, people can say that… but at the end of the day, those opinions matter none in how I live, pursue a piece of ass and perhaps even a relationship. I’m a firm believer that BLANKET statements / generalization are usually those of the uninformed, unexperienced and the alienated. Whatever their reasoning may be, who gives a shit. LIFE LIFE. Peace.
This is a rather level headed post.
Nice job (:
SUPER GREAT POST!
@MissBride - Haha, black guys are actually pretty guilty of saying how much they wouldn’t date black women though. Either way though, I think it’s really sad a lot of Asian girls feel that way because I think there’s so many awesome South/East Asian guys who I would love to give the time of day but I know they wouldn’t be interested in me, so meh…
kudos to that,
bloody asians who put us all in that same catagory cuz they lack all of the above should go burn in the hole theyve been living in.
man the **** up fella and grow some balls, stop putting the rest of us in your catagory.
I’m really glad you posted this. I thought that was a load of crap, too. If Asian men lack initiative, then why do I see so many of my Asian male friends with girlfriends!? Asian girlfriends, at that? Almost all of the nice Asian men I know are doing extremely well in the dating scene. Most of their relationships are long-lasting, too.
yea that post made me pretty angry as an asian male.
Stereotypes piss me off. Thank you for this
@JOTRI_thePOOandDOO -
I should start doing that to. All the blogs on featured are major fails now… simply full of bullshit.
Btw, I reccommended this post, it’s great, franksabunch
Right on! I am SO TIRED of all these Asian bashing blogs.
Well said.
That’s why I left a comment that it don’t only apply to Asian men but all men in general. lol
I love my Asian men.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FOyRWuklsiQ
you might enjoy this you tube video called yellow fever
Ha i LOVED THIS….im African American and i read a blog about how white women were preferred over other. a man commented sayin he agreed and that all black women where “chicken heads” thats y other women where preferred. i think its unfair to stereotype any race cuz any woman could act like. Just like its bad to stereotype different men of other races.
And by the way i date a Filipino man and he is GREAT>>>>>AT EVERYTHING!
Ha i LOVED THIS….im African American and i read a blog about how white women were preferred over other. a man commented sayin he agreed and that all black women where “chicken heads” thats y other women where preferred. i think its unfair to stereotype any race cuz any woman could act like. Just like its bad to stereotype different men of other races.
And by the way i date a Filipino man and he is GREAT>>>>>AT EVERYTHING!
@he_dazzles_me -
of course… the more you read it, the more the words will sink into our head and make us become one of them!
“Honey, the real world isn’t like Super Mario…no one wants to date a princess.”
I bet you’ve already heard this by now, but..
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
proud of you, keep fighting the good fight brotha! as i say good bye to you all
great post! =)
Well done =DD
The Super Mario reference was great!
good job =)
i don’t even have to read the original post to know EXACTLY what kind of bs you are referring to. Dr. Franksabunch, i wish you could hear just how loud i am clapping for you. and with these very same clapping hands, i am also bitch slapping the lemmings cuz i’m a multi-tasker like that.
@JOTRI_thePOOandDOO -
Ahh no! *puts on anti-featured-crap helmet*
interesting topic
Omg, thank you.
I agree. I was thinking the same thing when I read that post “Why Asian Men Lose Asian Girls”.
You’re awesome!
It’s like saying, “I’m not racist, I have Latino friends and I watch the Cosby show.”
That made me LOL!
I deliberately went and read that post just so I could read yours and understand, I agree with you much more. I may not be asian, but her post was racist, and taking the initiative can be anyone’s job. Depends upon who decides to go for it.
I agree.
well thought of.
the “why asian men lose asian girls” post was an unsportsmanlike conduct move. it failed, like how the eagles lost to the redskins. mwuahaha!!. (i’m a chargers fan =P)
Thank you for standing up for all the Asian men out there. Kudos to you. =)
I was going to write the EXACT same thing, but I guess you beat me to it. I hated that Asian post so much and the comments that agreed with her pissed me off even more.
LOL. i really i like this entry. very witty & you make a very good claim :] nice to see it from a guy’s point of view
Ha, I get so sick of listening to girls who think they’re the princess… unless they want to get kidnapped by Bowser, they should aim for a healthier relationship.
I’m a girl and I approve this message.
Agreed 100%
I’ve dated many different types of guys (whites, blacks, latinos, etc.) and had them show no intiative so it’s not just asians. But I mean, I go for the guy I want. I don’t sit around and wait giving myself a headache trying to think of reasons why he didn’t call the next day after our date. I try to contact him & if he isn’t interested I move on. Period.
I wish people would realize it’s not the 1920s anymore..where guys asked the girl out & met the parents first, etc etc.
That girl was just upset cuz she couldnt score one of us and was sad that she was missing out
sick post!!
I actually just signed in to tell you that. hahaha SICK post.
I can’t agree more!!!!
Hana Hou!!!
As an Asian girl, that other post was stupid and shouldn’t have been featured! Props to you. It’s not about race but initiative. For me, I’ve been attracted to my Asian friends as much as I was to my African American friends, Latino friends, and Caucasian friends. It was never about race for me but who I found attractive and had the initiative to want to go out. And yea, I’ve asked out guys before. So you’re also right on girls should ask guys out if they like him. It’s the 21st century! So they shouldn’t act like they want to be seen as an independant woman but whan it comes to asking out a guy they go back to the Middle Ages and wait for the guy to come for them to sweep her off her feet.
=)
@SupremeSoulja - You think the Bolts have a chance to the playoffs?
LMFAO!!
haha
“Honey, the real world isn’t like Super Mario…no one wants to date a princess.”
you my friend made my day with that line
right on! you tell em like it is! great post.
aha, i hated reading that blog, glad someone responded to it.
“ambulatory petri dish”… that was a good phrase
thanks for taking the time to find proof to counter all of the stereotypes. i enjoyed all the videos, especially the slam poet video.
about the super mario and princess…it reminded me of the mario kart love song on youtube.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDBpQVhCMb8
apparently asian men can sing and write songs, too. (at least he looks asian)
awesome post!
@eyesochinky -
i dun think they were random… lolz they were all Asian n contradicting against the things Asians supposedly aren’t/can’t do. lolz ;;;
The only problem I’ve encountered with trying to date Asian men is that they are either only keen on dating their own “ethnicity” on their parents’ orders or they are just rebelling against those orders. Either way, the fall out is not fun.
But that’s a culture issue, not a race issue. The post you’re responding to was just ridiculous and I’m glad you addressed its nonsense with humor
Well said–I am sick of all the racism on Xanga lately, and it is frustrating to see how people put in their nods of approval like lemmings before thinking about the logic behind it all. My husband is asian and he does not fit any of the asian stereotypes–other than the fact he has black hair and oriental skin.
Hahaha well said! Let the immature learn and love correctly!
Franks, we all love ya.
Great post!
“Double decka hecka no” Hehe. I’m going to use that from now on. It’s an upgrade from my “heck no!”
That was a great post here here!! Besides I’m sick of all that asian guy self pity! So what if other women are dating other men why not broaden your horizons or get this stop feeling sorry for yourself. I love your post and your attitude!
haha I was waiting for someone to post something like this!
Woot times 100!
Except the thing about princesses. No woot (minus one woot).
heh foretune 500 company can lay you off in a blink of an eye.
but your girlfriend…future wife, will bore you children and support you and build a family.
don’t compare these two, they aren’t the same thing.
if a guy likes a girl, he would jump hoops.
if a girl likes a guy, i am sure she would do more than sucking on mint.
props man, i love your post. so true.
Well said, Franksabunch. Well said.
THANK YOU for this entry. There are so many dumbasses out there.
I agree! Who wants to sit around and be hunted like a piece of meat? It just gets irritating after a while… I vote for somewhat equal pursuits
There have been a ton of posts like that lately, they’re pretty… annoying. Every time I read something like that, I’m pretty much thinking about how any other guy, no matter what his ethnicity is, could be like that. It’s typically females writing it, which is humorous that they know so much about males when they.. oh, I don’t know, are females.
this.
is.
AWESOME.
haha… guess I’m not the first person to notice, but to my credit I stopped by because of Christian Medical Students/Doctors rather than the lame-o featured content you hailed.
i can’t believe someone that insecure would write a stereotypical post and be featured on xanga.
good job on the counter argument brother.
Hahahaha! You are brilliant! Well said my darling! Don’t stop being the charmer you are!
that reminds me of the flak i get when people find out that i’ve never dated an asian guy. once a chinese guy threw words like “whitewashed slut” despite the fact that my respect for korea is intact in my attitude and language, and another girl ranted at me that “asian men aren’t as good as the rest” completely not registering the fact that she just insulted my brother to russia and back! where do these people get off? how can they decide for me what i like?
every-bloody-frikkin-day I know asian men who are amazing, including you =)
to me, the irony lies in the fact that my dating checklist is “teasing, long legs, willing to gush over tv shoes with me”….nothing to do with RACE.
Yay you’re back on featured content! Hahah.
@ TheyFearMyName. i doubt it; however, it’s any given sunday.
lol
THANK YOU. You basically said what everyone wants to say. Like AMEN to that.
peace, love and thanks. [=
we should make a movie called “Asians Gone Wild” because of this, and the other blog.
I have no problems asking Asian guys out. now, Asian girls, I really don’t care to ask any out. Perhaps she was referring to me = p
i’d have to agree. lol. i met some really awesome asian guys.
thank you
A Piece of Meat At the Whole Foods?????
awesome post!
haha i really liked your blog. very true. especially the end part about girls taking initiative. although i must say, I think asian guys tend to be pretty attractive… it’s not really a prejudice though if it’s a personal preference is it? :/
by the way, boycott that stupid DATINGISH blogsite, whatever that thing is. I’m more pissed off with DATINGSIH and stupid people who commented with their stupid opinions than I am of the person who came up with that piece of crap entry. Here’s how you get featured on DATINGISH. Just write something really demeaning about Asian guys and it would light up bright green and gets pushed into Featured Content.
I have zero respect for Asian girls that dates only white men and thinks they’re better than all the other Asian girls (the real wonderful kind) on the planet. Go and date white men in silence and shut the hell up. Nobody wants to hear what you think of Asian guys.
This trend will only continue to grow because men put Asian girls on too high a pedestal. The sickness is getting to some of these girls head.
Awesome!
Excellent post. Such a classy, tactful response is almost more that the petty, ridiculous original post deserved. Kudos to you for taking the high road!
than*
I’m sorry, I think I went a bit too far with my last comment. It’s really not any of my business who people choose to date. If they love white men only, they more power to them. If they hate Asian guys and thinks we’re all morons, what can I say? I could say a million things but it’s not going to change anyone’s mind.
your post just made my day. hope youve seen beau sia on youtube.
Dude, you’re the man for this post.
By the way, I think it’s safe to say that groups who have been on America’s Best Dance Crew like the Jabbawockeez, Supreme Soul, Super Cr3w, SoReal, etc. have pretty much killed the the stereotype of Asian guys who can’t dance. But for those of us from the West Coast, we already know that Asians do their thang out there on the dance floor!
This post is G. You’re a G.
I’m a white douche and I lack initiative (girls are scary) AND I don’t follow up (too lazy). Shnewgz.
well said.
great post.
I wouldn’t say Asian….I think it’s mostly Chinese guys are like that, I am Chinese, so I can say that.
hahas thats why i didnt even bother reading the post. knew it was going to be a stereotype blog.
Yeah, xanga primarily sucks now… (well it has been for quite sometime)
(oh and yeah, I wasn’t talking about you either…to a certain extent
)
Have a lovely Christmas as well!
Just throwing out there im a caucasian girl and the biggest turn on ever is asian guys. White boys just dont do it lol.
I also liked how you put all the stero types becuase really thats all there are.
Most the asians i know are good looking athletic SMART they may not always be tall but there not overly short.
On the last note EVERY SINGLE ONE OF MY ASIAN FRIENDS CAN DANCE… NOT ONLY THAT THE CAN DANCE GOOD.
It pretty much hot watching them dance, So i never read this last blog that speak of but im pretty sure there is a reason for the hate agianst asian lmao.
anyways i liked your blog you did a great good hope to see many more good ones.
I’m dating an Asian guy…and whether he fits the stereotypes or not, he’s a great guy. Great post.
Amen again.
I’m sure you and I could beat plenty of white boys at a dance comp! Hahaha!
HAHAHAHA
Yes. I read that entry after a friend of mine sent it saying “omg this is so true!!” Thank you for writing this. This really needed to be said. Thank you.
@snowboarderchick10 -
No, no, no….don’t respond in a hypocritical fashion. “…the biggest turn on ever are Asian guys. White boys just don’t do it.” Please, don’t. It really doesn’t solve anything.
Throwing firewood into the fire will only prolong the burning.
i think i read that post too!
and i was thinking…but azn guys are so hot tho…
hahaha agreed
@john - Naw, don’t do that. We’d all be bored with nothing to complain about.
It DOES NOT SUCK TO BE A ASIAN GUY. Boo her post lol
She’s speaking from her personal(?) experience, it’s stereotypical to label the Entire Asian male as.
i hate people who aren’t motivated and yet feel entitled to everything. fuck that.
Well, at the beginning of this entry, I was in all agreement, very happy that you had posted something in response to that ignorant blog. Unfortunately, you really disappointed me at the end of the blog. I am definitely not that kind of girl you described, but I dislike that you picked out flaws pertaining to a certain gender. Sure, you specify by saying “I am tired of reading blogs by girls,” BUT, I feel that doesn’t justify it at all, and it’s like you ALMOST did the same thing as the other author of the other blog by attacking a certain group yourself. I guess I don’t like generalizing in general. Everyone is different, and I think, you really have to be MORE specific when referring to INDIVIDUALS.
Thank you for such an uplifting post!
definately a reality check for some females out there. I’ve learned it early in life. If i want a man, I don’t sit around and wait for things to happen. I go hunt him down but at the same time, I’d like to see him do the same
As a fellow Asian guy, I approve this post.
As a human being, I approve this post.
I think you about covered the entirety of my thoughts on da matter.
Franksabunch FTW!!!
you are so right on about this!
Its all about preference, chemistry, and personality vs each other.
not ethnicity.
I think you missed the word “in general” here. Generally asian guys took less initiative than other race guys, generally asian guys don’t follow up. Just because Yao Ming is tall doesn’t mean generally asian guys are tall. Just because Takeshi is good looking, doesn’t mean the general asian male population look like him.
Generally, people agree with everything they read on xanga.
@Sadsunnydays -
well see i didnt mean for it to sound or be hypocritical im just stating it as it is.
@snowboarderchick10 -
It is easy to just finger something up across a keyboard without first thinking about it. If a white guy were reading what you wrote down, he would have probably thought it’s nonsense as well.
I don’t know if you mean it or not, but just like most Asian girls that does the same thing: IT’S STUPID if nothing ELSE.
Amen to that, man. Every last bit of it.
hi, don’t know why this is an issue.
wish i could find someone to share my stuff with, but it just gets bewildering.
such a personal thing. but, for someone who’s shy, it was and will be fun, shy or not.
xo
lauren
@Sadsunnydays -
Ok fair enough i see where your coming from
So to set this straight hahah
maybe 2 out 5 white guys are good looking
where prob 3-4 out of 5 asian guys are great looking
Asian men are not supposed to be well versed in English and the arts, be good athletes, be tall, be good looking and don’t know how to dance- So are u implying something else here?
You should post some pics of u to end some stereotypes.
And yes, WB! Mele Kalikimaka
Hollywood are afraid of showing strong Asian characters that dates white women. We’re nothing but a bunch of KUNG FU, MAFIA, VILLAIN types.
They’re so afraid of importing beautiful men like Takeshi Kaneshiro but have no problem importing Jackie Chan (Because he’s oh so funny, and talks funny and not as offensive when sized up against thespian like Chris Tucker)
What about beautiful men like Tony Leung? Women loves him no matter what race they are. Yet, idiots like William Hung got more exposure in the American media. Why do they do this? because it’s easy to find the goofiest shithead and make fun of him to further progress their stupid propaganda.
I thought that post spoke some truth and I think that your post does too but that’s because I’m pretty much impartial to both. Though if I had to “pick a side” I would go with hers. There’s a wholeeee long reason why but I guess I won’t bother. My point of writing this comment is just to say CHILL! =D I don’t believe the point of that post was to be racist or whatever. Just take things with a pinch of salt.
Just sayin [=
@whoaamello -
So now you’re the poster child for all ASIAN WOMEN? You have NOTHING in common with the next Asian girl so please, get off your high horse.
The author of that post had no intention of being racist or whatnot, but its people like you that comes along with nothing of real values to add that makes it annoying.
“Double decka hecka no.” — hahhahaa
Well-said, sir. Well-said.
i think asian men are hot
no asians in cleveland
What you say is true. However, why people choose to believe that other post is due in part to the stereotypical mold created by the media. The hard part is knowing and understanding that Asian guys don’t have to fit that mold.
I read that post and commented that it can apply to just about any guy, not just asians -
awesome post!
if anyone cares, I wrote my own reply to the original poster. go check it out if you want.
http://weblog.xanga.com/TheBaldShaolinGuy/686788149/why-asian-girls-are-sooo-attractive-to-white-guys.html
That post was featured because it spoke about Asians in relationships.
The way I see it, only a minority of people think that way. They are the ones WITHOUT relationships, complaining that there are no men who are worthy of them. And then, one day, they realise they are in their mid forties, and still too picky to find a man who will stay with them. Asian or no Asian. *Boon boon*
I once knew an American-Born Chinese girl who lived in suburbs told me that she hates herself because she is Chinese
and she dates and only date white guys
as a foreign Asian hearing this, I found it amazing with the hatred of her own race and the passion for the whites haha
Good job, man. I’m Chinese. I totally agree with you, a girls can’t just wait for the guy to do all the chase. I find myself in that hole. You totally changed me with more confidence! Thank you.
Lol! tru’ dat!
merry christmas
but i have to admit i haven’t read the other blog yet – got a bit put off the title when i saw it in the mains, but i think i’ll give it a go – to see how wrong it is
HAHA NICE!
I´m so sorry for all asian losers in US…
At least we´re representing here in my city.
Refreshing post. Only one thing: who said that latino guys are lazy? I thought that that’s what black guys are supposed to be… =P (fo real though)
thanks for this entry. Ive only skimmed it, but I like the Alvin Lau video really a lot, so thanks for the link.
nice post.
i left my footprints all over your site. it makes me happy to read popular posts by people from hawaii. i almost feel like i know you!~
LOL. This post is awesome!
I’m disapointed with your choice of asian for the ‘good looking picture’… Next time… I’ll be more than happy to provide a list of acceptable porn-star hot asian men. [Several of whom... I found from pornography.] XDD
Seriously… that’s a stereotype? That Asian men aren’t good looking? That’s just silly.
Who stereotypes an entire race as being unattractive?
Stereotypes are ridiculous in most cases.
May as well have a good laugh at them.
On that note…WHAT DO YOU MEAN ASIANS AREN’T GOOD ATHLETES[http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0991167/]!?!??!
i’m glad your entry was featured. i was getting annoyed with all of those featured blogs about how everyone wants asian ladies and blogs that were presenting asian men in a negative light. it all seems really stupid to me. i thought we were supposed to be past race by now…i guess not. pretty disappointing.
agreed
Thanks for giving a “non weak sauce” option =P Happy Holidays!
@Sadsunnydays -
Look, I didn’t say I was the poster child for anyone or anything. I just don’t understand why anyone has to get SOOOOOO affected. Why take everything so seriously?
And just coz I’m not on here kissing the author’s ass for something he wrote in regards to whatever, doesn’t make me an uppity girl or whatever so I’m not getting off the high horse coz I wasn’t even ON one to begin with. Jeeze you sure are wound tight.
Take a pill of the chill variety. Happy holidays! =D
LOL that was great!
agreed!
Hey all ppl from the U.S.,
Is this asian/non-asian guy/chick problem really so grave for you guys?
Anyway I’m european, hungarian and still doesn’t know how to dance
and I know an asian man here, he’s buryat, and taller than me (I’m 186 cm)… so that’s it about the stereotypes I guess 
Anyway what about the hot martian chicks and guys then? LOL
Cheers,
Dani
Haha, nice.
cool, but it really depends, after all different people have different ways of thinking =)
this was just a great read…i particularly love this line “‘I’m not racist, I have Latino friends and I watch the Cosby show.’” Too funny. i’m black and i like Asian men more. and actually, i know a lot of them that dance, really really well.
…yeah right. You’re not a true Asian. Your eyes aren’t slanted enough.
@whoaamello -
You own two high horses. One to get on after you’ve exhausted the other one.
The Super Mario reference is even better because at the end…
“Thank you Mario! But our princess is in another castle!”
i love this. it’s funny… and it’s true. i read the other blog and though “how is heck is this specific to Asian guys? every colour of shy (or awkward or geeky or *insert descriptor here*) guy does that.
it’s funny how some people are so ignorant, they don’t even realize they’re publicly parading their racist, stereotypical views.
I am also quite tired of all of the racist/stereotype blogs that are making the front page!
its my first time writing on here, but i actually read tht previous post and i just thought it was a non-issue to be honest.
but you pretty much summed up everything i thought xD
however i do believe that girls shoudnt be the one to agressively pursue the guys, because as someone said earlier, God made it so that, just as Jesus loves the church, men should chose women as their bride and actually be the “agressor”..
buh yea
good response..kudos~!!!!
Good post! I agree with you; stereotypes are really dangerous!
I actually do agree with you, and I think I used to be one of those crazy girls that used to blame shift. It probably just made it easier to have things set in a logical way, but we’re human and there is no logic. In all honesty, “everyone’s just a little bit racist” (from Ave Q)
are you serious?! i LOVE asian guys! i’m dating him right now =) and he is perfect!
i never had any doubts about asian guys..
This post rings true in so many ways. My bf was actually very shy and did lack initiative when we first started to talk, but I liked him and so I had no problem showing him I was interested and telling him, which led to us going out, and two years later we’re still together. But even though that featured post was partially true about my bf in no way made it an “asian thing”, it’s a PEOPLE THING. Thanks for writing this, Asian guys are awesome! And yep, it only sucks to be an Asian dude as much as you make it suck haha.
Ooooh snap: “Don’t put me in a box just because someone rejected you in the past.”
“Honey, the real world isn’t like Super Mario…no one wants to date a princess.”
Those are good ones. Wittiness is sexy, Asian man! LOL. No, really, it is. I think any gender & race, actually lol.
You are absolutely right – all people can possess these “negative” attributes. “Herding” men into specific categories takes their individual characteristics away – just like approaching all women the same probably isn’t the best method to practice. Something’s missing there, know what I mean? Shorty just needs to be out there a little more and realize that individuals are individuals, and men lose women to other men and women all the freakin time, lol.
You know what would be interesting? If the people writing these posts are just noticing a shift in the “norm” of what they usually see – gravitation towards openness, perhaps? – and make that movement into something so astronomical that it’s perceived that Asian men are losing their women. That’d be some ironic yet pitiful shit right there.
I think with more and more people entering into interracial relationships, all ethnic groups are losing their own, so to speak, to other ethnic groups.
humans are boring .
great post. it’s awesome to be an asian guy. i get asked for my opinion on computers all the time.
Go Azn Hot guys! ♣
“It’s like saying, “I’m not racist, I have Latino friends and I watch the Cosby show.””
Hahaha.
Love it.
Bravo. I’m a very pretty Asian guy and I know it.
Fuck yeah, tell it like it is home boy. >;D
The Asian Don Juan. LOL. Preach bratha, preach.
Ahaha, jump through hoops.
Maybe it’s just the people I know (since most of them are associated with a lot of other girlies) that they do jump through these “little” hoops to prove something.
Like calling your wife, I consider that a hoop.
Maybe things change over the generations. It seems everyone in my age group seems to be having sex. A lot considering I met some girls who have to start counting on their 2nd hand. (I’m a proud 18 year old virgin)
Call me spoiled or a bitch or whatever, it’s not like I never heard it before…but I don’t lower my standards just for a guy. I treat my body like a temple so I expect people to respect it for how it is. You say it’s just lala land for girls, but I think that’s how you know you got yourself a keeper, if not in life then at the moment. When you meet a guy that doesn’t treat you like a princess, but like a queen. I use this analogy because a queen to me is “the equal” but is still treated with high respect and manners. She refers to a more mature woman who knows what she wants than to a princess stuck in bowsers castle.
THANK YOU.
I’m sick of reading junk like that…. but I saw this on featured content and said, wow, something actually worth reading and not retarded.
Seriously, thanks for writing this.
All of those racist idiots need to read this and shut their mouths!
I laughed all the way through this. However, I do have to let you know that for thirty-seven years, until his death, I was married to a Chinese man who was taller than I (and I’m 5’7″), an athlete (could have gone pro in tennis), was well versed in English and the arts (was a classic pianist), AND was good looking. I had the best all rolled into one. I love Asian men … at least one!
you’re so right! she’s probably just one of those girls who can’t accept the fact that some guys just aren’t into her enough to make the initiative, and just need an excuse/reasoning behind their actions..or lack thereof. whatever race/type a guy is…if he wants the girl badly enough… he’ll take action. when he doesn’t..it’s most likely cuz he doesn’t feel that she’s worth it.
exactly.
Who cares? If some girls are too lazy to try for an excellent man- who is really missing out? I’m a Latina and I’ve been with my Asian boyfriend for a year now, and I can honestly say I have never met a guy who comes CLOSE to being comparable in EVERY aspect.
Thanks for being real, Im going to have to steal the princess line and use it on my friends.
Jessica Alba is Hispanic, btw.
this post is hilarious and really well written. i read the post by the girl about asian men also. its just 2 points of view. noone is right or wrong
And on a related note: sales of Super Mario games just went up.
Wow you’re featured! Did you take the initiative to make it a featured post?
I also hate that it’s okay for a person to be racist because its about asians… what’s up with that!?
This was my favorite line “Negative attributes are a monopoly of mankind and not one particular kind of man.”
Very good.
But I do also agree with CertifiedXangsta because while I don’t ever believe guys will be coming up to pursue me, I am now in a very loving relationship (for a year) and still want my boyfriend to do more of the initiating regarding where we go. I want to be “courted” perhaps. I buy things for him, he buys things for me. I support him, he supports me. It is a give and take.
Hahah this post is awesome! I didn’t get a chance to read that article about Asian men supposedly failing at dating – but targeting at a racial group based on one’s own limited experience in life is pretty stupid and it is racist. It seems that article itself implies that all Asian women (such as myself) who date a guy outside of her race does so because she thinks that Asian men are “weak sauce.” Just to set the record straight, I know quite a few Asian men and they have no trouble getting dates or following up on them or having girlfriends of all different races. As I have told my parents, (who wanted me to find a nice “Catholic Pilipino boyprend”) my boyfriend is white because of probability. I live in an area of mostly white people, thus the probably of finding a single, available Asian man is less likely than finding a single, available white man. It’s not because I think Asian men are weak sauce it’s because of math.
Word.
Well said….
Thanks for the back up… as an asian man, I was beginning to feel as though I was the center of controversy…
“No guy wants to be in a relationship where he always has to jump through hoops to prove to a girl that he likes her. (Only insecure women ask for that.) “
classic
Good post! My hub is asian and he definitely takes initiative! (and he’s the hottest man I’ve ever seen!)
Awesome post. Seriously, I enjoyed reading this one. I have to say though that I have never dated an Asian guy. You don’t see very many Asian men in my area.
Personally, I find Asian men the most attractive and sweetest guys to be with.
“Im not racist because I have Latino Friends and watch the Cosby Show” LOL Too Funny
Nice one Frank
LOL. This entry made my day. Way to break down those stereotypes–it’s about time someone does this. And you get major points for taking swings at all those -ish sites. They don’t know what they’re talking about.
HAHAHA “Double decka hecka no.”
btw, i know a very athletic asian… who happens to be very tall AND good looking. all the asians guys i know are good looking. and arent most asians really good breakdancers?
my cousin was just talking to me about how he would never date an asian or a mexican girl. i asked why and he thought it was funny to respond with “because im RACIST!” which isnt really funny. i have dated a mexican and most of my crushes have been asian. and idk about you guys, but i think shy guys are adorable. asian or otherwise.
My 17yr old younger brother is 6’1″ and wants to be a NFA football player. He is the anthesis of the sterotypical Asian boy.
BTW, I LOVE that youtube video on your header, I just noticed it now. I posted it on my facebook. hahaha.
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1343340038&ref=profile
I agree. I live in Hawaii *I like that your page says “give some aloha” btw* where I’m SURROUNDED by asian guys both from asia and local boys too. And let me tell you a good handful amount of them are JAW dropping HOT HOT HOT<33. They’re also the BEST break dancers, have the SICKEST cars, and most of them are gentlemen. I’ve dated haole men, asian, local, everything. But I fell in LOVE wtih an asian guy. So people can eat their stereotypes about asian guys *especially the size one*
because he’s been the biggest outta EVERYONE.
so POWER to the asian.
btw your youtube video looks like it’s in kaneohe, you live in hawaii don’t you
?
I loved this post.
Maybe the Asian guy who the girl is interested in, is not interested in her. He’s done the math, and figured that dating a needy, insecure princess is not worth investing the time. He’s not scared or lazy – he’s smart!
Haha. I loved the super mario quote
“What does that post infer about the Asian and non-Asian women who date Asian men? Are they somehow degrading themselves by choosing Asian men?
I am tired of reading blogs by girls who incessantly complain that guys don’t take the initiative or call back fast enough, as if their mere presence in a room should demand that all the single men get down on one knee and beg for a date like she was Jessica Alba. If you want to work at a Fortune 500 company, do you think just sitting outside the entrance sucking in your gut and on a breath mint will get you a job? Double decka hecka no. You send in your resume and harass HR until they offer you an interview. Likewise, if there is a guy you fancy, don’t just sit and whine about being ignored…go get him. The thought that men should do all the chasing (i.e. “work for it” as if the girl is a piece of meat at Whole Foods) is as antiquated as the thought that a woman should put out on a date because the guy took her to Applebee’s and pretended to listen to her drama. If women want to be treated and respected like equals, they shouldn’t act like damsels in distress when they are not. The beginning of a relationship sets the tone for the future. No guy wants to be in a relationship where he always has to jump through hoops to prove to a girl that he likes her. (Only insecure women ask for that.) Honey, the real world isn’t like Super Mario…no one wants to date a princess.”
AGREED. 100%.
Nothing to say past those two words.
ooof, mr.goodlooking is very handsome. i was just watching a youtube clip of him but i had no idea what his name was. grrrrrr
Aloooooha Frankie!
This is a great post!
Yep, I think that girl was just bitter and holding a grudge (probably intensely insecure as well) I read the title and that was enough for me to know I didn’t want to read the whole post because it was just some brat’s guy bashing rant.
The ‘chasing’ aspect you brought up is particularly interesting since women hate to be referred to as a ‘chunk of meat’. Oh the irony.
Good post.
(And Asian guys are hot. Especially chubby ones. Like that guy on Heroes.)
werdd man.
What? Really…???
I’m Asian and I:
Lack initiative
Don’t follow up
Am not really tall
Am not really good looking
Don’t know how to dance!
I thought all Asians were like me…haha XP
But anyways, I agree. Jumping through hoops can sometimes be fun, but it can also get tiring
By the way, who’s that little boy who welcomes me to your blog??
And are you from Hawaii by any chance? I don’t know any other place with mountain ranges like that.
i LOVE YOU. happy holidays
Asian men are not supposed to be well versed in English and the arts.
Asian men are not supposed to be good athletes.
Asian men are not supposed to be tall.
Asian men are not supposed to be good looking.
Asian men don’t know how to dance.
All assumptions wrong. Those people didn’t know what they were talking about.
rock on!
*clap* *clap* *clap*
“Honey, the real world isn’t like Super Mario…no one wants to date a princess. If you choose not to date someone because he lacks initiative or does not follow up that’s fine by me. Just don’t assume that because I’m Asian that I’m weak sauce like that.” Love these lines…i agree..maybe i am a girly girl..i am a silly head and plus i act like a boy! the truth is i wanna be fabulous but not a princess ..and not only princesses are charming!
i read that post of saying asian guys are not initiactive. and i replied ..i dont agree with that. it really depends on a lot of other factors..well the girl could be initiative too.no? i wanna be the one who controls the whole situiation . if i like the guy and the guy likes me..why not i call him!
People tend to believe what they are told and agree with anything that is well written/said by someone with clout or with whom they wish to curry favor. I.e. people are sheep. Plus, they feel that when a person of X race (or ethnicity or whatever the appropriate term is) gives them permission to bash X race then it’s not racist.
And now after reading your post there will probably be new comments on the other post talking about how wrong and stereotypical it is.
If Asian women are, in fact, being “lost to” men of other races, maybe it’s not because Asian men lack something that men of other races have, but maybe it’s because there are many gorgeous Asian women, and Asian women are a bit fetishized in western culture, so maybe they are just being pursued very highly by every man out there? I don’t know. The funny thing is that it goes both ways; why isn’t there a featured blog about Asian men snapping up all the cute blond girls? In college, my three housemates were Japanese guys, and they fell all over themselves for some of my (white) friends. ANYWAY, I think there are attractive and unattractive people of any and all races (duh). What is so earth-shattering about that? There are tons of attractive Asian guys, by the way, including tall and athletic ones, and also good dancers! Some of the Japanese guys I know can pop lock and drop it like no one’s business. Anyway, why don’t people ever seem to consider the fact that maybe people base their relationships on something other than physical attraction, anyway? Like, maybe people don’t date someone BECAUSE of or IN SPITE of their race/height/dancing ability, etc., but maybe because they like each other and hit it off well? Crazy idea, I know.
Just for the record
How sexy is Franksabunch? =D
don’t worry, korean men are the ultimate players.
Stick it to the woMAN!
haha well said.
good post!
First, I want to say,” Merry X’mas’ for you.
I think, it’s not only Asian guys. I see Latino, African and White can lose their girlfriends,too. I think, it’s very personal. I am Asian but it doesn’t mean that I am in the Asian guy side. I think, an Asian guy is polite and gentle than others. I am in the muti-culture between Japanese and Thai. I know,Japanese guys are not sweet and not often say,” I love you” while Thai guys are sweet, kind and nice but they are rakish. However, you guys shall be happy with them if you can accept and stay together.
Very true. I live in LA, where there is an abundance of practically every race… and it’s all too easy to find a guy out of any of them that will lack initiative and not follow up.
On the other hand, it is possible to find guys out of any of those groups that will treat you like a respectable person and not a piece of meat.
Good post!
i personally love asian guys and so does my sister. maybe asian guys are just possessive of their asian girls, so their butthurt is magnified into a stereotype. and some asian girls are just superficial and probably want pretty half white-half asian babies.
lol @ the black and latino reference =p
and dude, it doesn’t suck to be an asian guy AT ALL. with all the stereotype around asian guys, i find it ever so easy to just stand out from that stereotype. result? well, yeah =]
nicely put. Im all for what you wrote.
ya even i read that post…..and it sucked
i mean jus cos 10-20 guys are that way does not mean you can actually judge a whole damn continent on that
and lik they don’t exist in other places
and they sure are racist
its gr8 you spoke on this issue
anyways Merry Christmas!
Hi franksabunch,
Am Asian and do not lack any initiative.
But we dont know how to court and woo since this custom is purely Western.Here the girl may have to teach us hiow to kneel and pop the question!The second point is that we are brought up here in Asia in a rather conservative set up at home since our parents have this nice boy/ nice girl mold ready for us.So we are rather shy to put our hands on another girl’s shoulders.Teach us how to and the rest we can do wonderfully!!Luv sadaboy@xanga(Prof Dr N.Sadasivan,India.) .(Read my blogs also!!)HappyChristmas to you!1
Hi franksabunch,
Am Asian and do not lack any initiative.
But we dont know how to court and woo since this custom is purely Western.Here the girl may have to teach us hiow to kneel and pop the question!The second point is that we are brought up here in Asia in a rather conservative set up at home since our parents have this nice boy/ nice girl mold ready for us.So we are rather shy to put our hands on another girl’s shoulders.Teach us how to and the rest we can do wonderfully!!Luv sadaboy@xanga(Prof Dr N.Sadasivan,India.) .(Read my blogs also!!)HappyChristmas to you!1
well said! yea, i don’t understand really either why they would put asians in such a category. or any ethnicity for that matter.
How dare you post a link of a hot Asian guy? (I think I am in love… lol)
Anyway, what if the girls weren’t insecure? What if they’re just traditionalists/ol’ school? I’m sure there are many confident girls who choose not to “chase” after a guy they like since they value their culture (assuming that they come from a culture that does not permit them to reveal their emotions or “chase” after someone they like first). Also, girls, in my opinion have more to lose when they initiate first.
I’ll be a hypocrite and say that I agree with you to a certain degree though. Since it’s ’08 (or should I say ’09, since it’s so close!!!), there’s nothing wrong with a girl going after a guy that she likes, provided that she knows what the heck she is doing. moderation of course – not to the point where she does everything to get him. :/
this was a good post (esp. the link to the hottie
). i didn’t read the datingish entry and don’t plan on reading it either. asian guys and asian girls have too many negative stereotypes attached to them. people need to stop believing these stereotypes.
p.s.
asian guys aren’t ugly. ^_^ but like caucasians/blacks/latinos/etc., there are the ugly ones, the not so ugly ones and of course, the good looking ones.
AGREE!!!!!!!!!!! I am all for men’s side. This post is great. I actually did see that post this week, just browsed through it and not interested in one bit, didn’t even read the whole thing, it sucks.
Great post dude, you rock.
This post shouldn’t have had to be written, but thanks for writing it anyway. I really wish I would stop reading “why Asian/Black/White/Latino/a guys/girls/ are/do/don’t blankity blank blank” post. What a crock.
But they’re so silly, I almost can’t help myself…I think a lot of ppl here would agree.
Take care,
Aggressive Black Guy
lol! nice post
Good post—there have been a few posts that appear to stereotype asian men like this, it’s great to see the idea combatted a little!
People who believe that stuff are weird.
Look around; the world has become something of a melting-pot of different cultures all blended together!
Why do they have to extract Asians from the equation and set them aside like it’s DIFFERENT when it involves only them?
In any case, it’s usually about the asian GUYS not being able to get girls outside of their culture, while the girls are seen hanging around with guys of any colour.
My bf of eight years is Taiwanese while I’m Trinidadian, and I like to think that we’re living proof that this whole thing with the girls dating outside the culture, is just silly. Doesn’t matter what race you are, sheesh…if you get a gf or you don’t, it has nothing to do with your ethnicity!!
bottom line is: don’t be a racist
Are you asian? I would of give you props for back in w/ the asians boys.. … I am 100% chinese cantonese…but yet…I am still specifically chooses the precise right kind of asians. Is that makes me a SUPER RACIST….you tell me:
-NO VIET ( they speaks funny)
-NO Phillipino (they are too dark)
-NO Thai (they are too skinny and speaks funny) *most!!
-NO Laos (they are too dark and speaks funny)
-NO Singaporean (they are too conservative)
-NO Hong Kong (they use too much profanity in each sentences that comes out of their mouth always filling in with a word “Fuck SHIT” these and that)
-NO Mandarin (their language sound like they whine too much)
-NO Japannese (their style are too jacked outrageous and too clever…so to speak, language is cute)
-NO Combodian (same as thai, phillip, laos…skins too dark)
-NO China Man (they dont understand english)
-NO 100% Korean (way too mannered)
-NO Blacks (way too big)
-NO Latino/Hispanic (got NO STYLE in most cases)
-NO Whites (doesn’t think and react too quickly)
-NO Indians (too conservative)
-NO Germans (too racists)
-NO Russians (too high class)
-NO Lebanese (too high class)
-NO French (Too HOT that brings in challengers)
-No European (Too Hot that brings in challengers)
-NO middle eastern (No comment)
stereotypes exist for a reason, buddy. asian guys have that rap b/c many DO fall under the category of not taking the initiative and all that junk. after many experiences with multiple asian males, i would have to say i agree with those stereotypes–double decka hecka YES! but nothing to complain on, you’re right–that’s their problem and their LOSS, not mine! haha. you are obviously one of the exceptions to the stereotypical asian male–which worked out well for you and The Wife™ ;D props!
so true. i have an asian guy friend in chicago and i text him all the time, and he TEXTS ME BACK, unlike my white guy friends who i see every week and say that they’re too tired to text back. then, they wonder why i don’t text them.
i hate stereotypes.
i hate stereotypes
Gee, i´ve had boyfriends from various backgrounds: latino , dominican, african-american, mexican, north-american,french, spanian and rusian. Right now i´m dating an asian guy, and i love it!!! The greatness of a guy doesn´t depend on the tallness that he has, but how great he is as a man……………
Sorry by my english!!! I´m still learning!!!!
dude you are like my hero right now.
*nods head.
yep.
hahaha love it.
Please. The only good dancers I’ve ever met are Asian. Some of the best musicians I know are Asian. over 90% of my Asian friends are good looking, and ALL of them are good at one sport or another.
looks like u stirred up a hornets nest, try stirring up a kitty lair
I love Asian men but yet most of they can be pussy sometimes =).
@BBYalice - Hahaha! Good catch! I do live in Hawaii, but not in Kaneohe where my nephew does!
Merry Christmas, Frankie~
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@deep2000 -
This is such a weird post. LOL
I clicked on the JPG link for “long duk dongs” and was sorely disappointed. But I’m still wishing you a merry Christmas, Frank.
sounds like a personal ad of a desperate man.
if you were judged solely on your looks and got rejected… then the pretty lady isn’t worth your time.
Lol Well said ^^
I didn’t read that post, but i read this one. Racism, in all forms wont cease to exist. But i really like what you wrote. Merry xmas buddy!
i know asian guys who’s well versed in english and art, oh hell , very athletic, good looking, tall and some are good dancers. nice post.
Other than the awesomely amazing hair and unique eyes, asian people are just like french people or canadian people or south american people or…. well you get the picture. Im french.
haha.. my guy friends always get angry with crap like those posts. Glad you’re writing again!
Well we both know how I feel about Asian men so let the idiots put them down so we who value can pick them up. Speaking of which- I really need you to get a subscription to a man of the month club. Seriously lacking in choices where I am now. Help your Haole out!
great post. the other post was lame
i also take initiative
@franksabunch - aha holy crap what area do you live in then? *scary sounding, sorry* Hey hey, ever notice how hard it is in hawaii to be an asian GIRL too ;__;? All these pretty super skinny japanese tourist every where, makes it hard to date. Dang.
Hey, I totally agree with you. I’m european, I have some asian friends, and they are pretty cool people. When I talk about serious things, I often turn to them cuz most of my asian friends are very nice and respectful. They always understand me which is pretty cool
And I hate racist people.Thumbs up:)
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It sucks to be an Asian guy in America!
In fact I would go one step further and say that white people are by fate the mortal enemies of Asian males. Think about this;
In America, the white male steals all the Asian females in the dating scene, while on the other hand the white female practically spits upon the Asian male! Asian males are seen at best as “pets” to white females. Sexless friends and errand boys. The only time they are soo nice to Asian males is when they have an agenda such as a waitress!
Furthermore, as if that wasn’t enough, due to massive cultural brainwashing by the racist media in America, high numbers of Asian males are turning gay for the white male because apparently that is the only thing Asian guys appear to be good for here in America. Yeah that’s right, get on your knees and then bend over for the white guys. Just look at all the porn movies, almost all are Asian women with white guys and almost zero Asian males unless of course it is gay porn!